Is avoidance really a solution?

       Avoidance is said to be the main strategy which is adopted by humans to reach a truce to the problems which they face. I recently happened to wonder, is it really a solution to all issues? Does avoidance provide a permanent solution to the problems? What do you think?
       To start with, whenever I stated any problem which did not have a straight-forward solution, avoidance was suggested by people. It is the solution which, according to them, relieves a person of pondering about a problem which they have. At this very moment, I wondered, where does this problem go? The whole universe is balanced and there is no magic in problems vanishing away out of the blue. What should be done then? Let us take up the  process of food assimilation and overall digestion process of our body. Whatever food we ingest into our body is either absorbed and used for our life essential processes or excreted from our body, in this way there is always some process which defines each action performed. What if we imagined that the food we just ingested was avoided by our system and rejected for any process whatsoever. Just imagine now, where will this food go? It cannot be residing in the realms of our stomach all the time; it needs to vacate the space occupied by it to make room for the new food substances to nurture our body's health.
     Emotions are no different  and being emotionally healthy involves flushing out old emotions to make room for new and healthy ones.The unhealthy and vicious practice of people to generalise emotions based on a previous experience acts as a hindrance. After any bad experience, people often harbour these feelings(often negative) inside them, ignore them and are complacent that things are good with them; this complacency does not last much and the emotions which once they avoided surely hits back like a thunderbolt out of nowhere. Emotions have no physical existence and are abstract  and this makes things worse because we have no external tonic or any medication to help. The grandiose challenge, I believe is not an unhealthy body but unhealthy emotions. Having said all this, the best I could hope for is the presence of an excretion system for emotions. In this way, people realise how much filth they hold in their hearts.
    The first step to flush these emotions out of the system is accepting the fact that things have happened and letting go of the past for a better future. But wait, there is a catch here too, memories, they act like destructors of this process. People think what they experienced in the past to be way better than it actually was. This compels them to go back to the place where they came from to feel "secure". How can memories exaggerate things like this? If things were so better, they would never have taken a turn for the worse. With such destructive memories, they spoil their present and end up ruining their future prospects. People at the other end of such emotional people are smart enough to know this and take this to their advantage. So, in this discussion we found that avoidance of issues spawns memories which again backtracks our progress by 2 steps.
    I have explained the perplexities involved in avoiding a problem w.r.t emotions. However, this could also be extended to other domains, areas for a better life and healthy living.
     So, having said all this, I wish to ask all of you, do you see avoidance as a strategy to tackle your problems??
       

Include Me!!

     The title seems absurd isn't it? What can it possibly mean according to you?Include you, but where? People have made good friends with whom they hang out with, have a good time with. Everything seems fine and green when you see a person in the group. Recently, I was amused to see the amount of efforts which people take to maintain their status quo in a group.
      We measure the "coolness" quotient of a person by the number of friends he/she has. A person who has more number of people at anytime is said to be crowd-puller,hilarious and an attractive personality. There are no second thoughts about the qualities which this person possesses. Everybody wants to become like him/her. The real problem arises in this thought only. To match upto such sort of personality, people try and force themselves into things which they might not be interested in. Let us take up the FIFA worldcup as the reference. People's mind which are 'football dead', suddenly woke up when the world cup bell rang. I was surprised when these people were acting as if football was not an alien sport for them and that it has been decades since these people started watching this game. The best part is when these people accost other hardcore football fans with some recent game discussion and end up making fun of themselves by stating some wrong facts owing to lack of knowledge. My laughter knew no bounds when a person openly supported a football club as opposed to a country. Such has become our attention-seeking habits that we just crave for attention albeit through such ways  warranting unnecessary self-mocking and devaluation of one's own personality.
     Having said all this, I fail to understand one thing, why do people want so much of attention? my wonder-lust struck mind wanted to dig deeper. One of the possible answers could be we belonging to the "social being" category.How would you feel being a loner when all around you are in groups making merry. One always feels to have someone with whom they could speak, lighten their heart and have fun; pretty natural that way.Let me tell you, being surrounded by people always or having let people bother you at times is annoying. Sometimes, it is always better to be alone and nurture one's thoughts.
     Human beings are pretty ambiguous when it comes to liking something.For instance, people living at a particular place always admire other places rather than acknowledging their own surroundings; to be precise, people in the north pole always admire the south pole and vice versa. When we go and reside there, we come to know the complexities involved in residing in that place. So according to this principle, a loner will always want to be surrounded by people and sometimes, a person in a group may want to be accompanied by solitude.
   I have always been blatantly opposing the method of forcing oneself into something which one doesn't wish for primarily.There are always people who will be like you when it comes to giving you company. There are like minded people and there are people who differ greatly in thoughts compared to you. I feel it is always better to be a loner as opposed to being an "intruder" in the group for the group members. Deliberations will always make you and other person uncosy with each other.
     So, guys stop deliberating and live naturally.The "include me" attitude should be deserted. Let me tell you that there are ways in which I have kept company, not that I have people near me in abundance always; company can take various forms you see, take you into wonderlands, make you imagine places you have never been in before, make you imagine characters in those places, make you imagine a whole new world.If you get what I mean to convey.........
So guys, who is giving you company??
“If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” 
-Jean Paul-Satre

My Sunshine Blog Award

Hello everyone out there. This is my first blog award and I wish to share this with all my readers who have relentlessly supported me by reading my blogs.
As the legacy goes, this award is awarded by a fellow blogger.This award helps to identify other fellow bloggers and connect with them.
I acknowledge my nominator Namrata who writes awesome blogs and whose page is worth visiting time and again.I just like her style of writing
Thank you Namrata this award shall always be cherished.

There are certain rules one has to follow in order to accept the award. They are:

1. Display award on your blog.
2. Show gratitude to the person and link back your nominator.
3. Nominate up to 10 of your favorite deserving bloggers.
4. Link the nominees in your post and let them know.
5. Write ten interesting things about yourself.

My nomination list goes as follows:
1)Anusree Burman
2)Vishal Bheroo
3)Ananya
4)Ankita Shreeram
5)viyoma
6)Vinay

I shall nominate a few other bloggers with time.
Here are 10 things about me:
1)I have just completed my engineering in IT and on the verge of beginning my professional career.
2)I love reading books and that too from a  variety of genres.
3)I believe in simplicity and I find beauty in uncomplicated and clear thinking.
4)I am a deep thinker and my blogs are a reflection of that.
5)I really admire my parents and their simplicity.
6)I write what I feel and expect readers to be open about their views on that topic.
7)I also love singing and have got a token of appreciation in this too.
8)I believe in absolute dedication in the work I take up.
9)There are certain people who are valued dearly in my life.
10)Lastly, I believe in sarcasm a lot....:P.

The conversation among intellectuals!!!

                                                             

                   Now that my exams got over and for sometime atleast I am getting a respite from all the stationery items. So I utilized this time to just wonder about what they had to say about me. They have worked really hard to get me here and I guess they deserve credit for the same. There were some stationery items I would prefer using during my examinations while for others, they had found a dark recess inside my pouch to rest during the strenuous times.They were very reluctant to talk to me in my presence so I just put a microphone on the table and went away for a break during studying for one of the examinations. Here's what everybody had to say:
(My pouch has a pencil ,Pen A,Pen B(used less as compared to Pen A), Scale, Rubber,Sharpener lets see what these people have to say about me..as recorded by my microphone)
Pen A: Hello guys, how are you all doing?
Pencil: I am doing well, it's only during the examination that I become a commodity to be used; other times I    have a peaceful sleep. Life is kind of seasonal for me. Every 6 months my importance is realised.
Rubber: I pretty much agree with Pencil, I am only used to rub off the scars which this pencil creates on the   paper. Pencil, I need to ask you one thing, why do you create so many wrong curves and marks??
Pencil: Hey that's not my mistake; this guy guides me to work and I create my marks according to how he     holds me and guides me along the paper.That's really unfair of you for blaming me for this!
Rubber: As you can see my status, I have become so small in size only to hide the wrong marks created by you. I feel I don't have a life of my own. While everybody grows, I am just  reducing in size as the days pass rubbing someone else's wrongdoings.
Pen A: Well, you two, it seems his pouch has only a pencil and a rubber. Look at me, I am the same since 4 years and that is so boring. he doesn't even dispose me for me to take a new shape and for my life to get interesting. All the time he refills my ink and uses the same style of handwriting. Let me tell you one thing, his handwriting is cursive and he must be rotating me about 30 times a minute continuously, that's so tiring. I am bored of his touch and curves!!!!! The worst part is on the answer paper he tries to overwrite pencil's lead marks with my ink in diagrams. I am fed up of so much of importance!!Sometimes I even try to protest by not giving out a smooth flow of my ink but he ignores and by flipping me in different angles ensures that my ink flows properly!!
Scale:No reduction in size, no issues but my surface becomes rough after a point of time.
Sharpener: It seems I am in relationship for life with pencil. The only job is to groom the pencil so that it delivers quality and sharp marks. Nothing more to say!
Pen B:Hey listen up you all, I am quite chilled, he uses me very rarely, I am fed up of his mood swings but guess what i really like him since he bothers to care of me and also makes me realise my importance by using me regularly. So I think, I have nothing to crib about with this guy.
Pencil: Pen B, maybe you wont realise, for his own needs he sharpens me and reduces me in size as days go by, as I work for him I see myself reduced in size and power. Won't you feel bad for such a thing?
Pen B: Not at all, infact mates, I rate all of us more than his friends who are humans, would you like to know why?
Pen A: That's a very interesting point you made Pen B, I can't wait to hear your justification
(Everybody now listens with full concentration with the rubber allthemore curious )
Pen B: As you all know, he prefers Pen A more than me, so I have been kept at the outermost zip in his pouch where he hardly explores things.I could hear all he spoke to himself when he was alone. He spoke about how humans are manipulative and not trustworthy. He hates such people and loves people who can be trusted upon. I think we all are loyal to him and stood by him for all these years! doesn't that make us better than his fellow friends??Though we loose a part of us daily, I feel proud to do so, its a life lived of pride and no guilts.
Pen A: Hey come on bro, aren't you getting too serious here, I need a change okay?
Rubber: I agree with you Pen B, you are absolutely right! all these days I have been cribbing but now I feel proud of my own loss. I just hope after my slaughter, he disposes my cover properly which i am wearing now and on which he holds me to rub!!
Pencil: Correct Pen B, but before laying my life for him I would surely advise him to buy a lead pencil rather than pencils like me, in this way those pencils can remain loyal forever with only the lead changing inside.
Pen A: Scale and sharpner, I hope you are on my side atleast!!
Scale: No, Pen A, I agree with what your counterpart has to say, I shall serve my master!
Pen A: Scale, It seems you are in the armed forces. Oh come on scale!
Sharpener: Do we have any option here?? but there is some substance in what pen B has to say.It's better to be loyal and serve him after-all he is caring....
(Meanwhile, I make an entry and they all are back to their static positions.....now you all can imagine what can they say after this...)

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.