To feel the onset of the "end".

         Every journey, including life has an associated timeline with it. When we start any journey, we are hit by anxiety. I began my engineering life on August 23,2010. The very first day of my college was just awesome. I still remember physics was the first lecture I attended and concentration at that time was at its best. It's been 4 years now and still these memories haven't faded.
       After 10 years of school life and 2 years of junior college life i was all set for this engineering life. With much expectations, I traveled by Mumbai local to my college's location. Since I wasn't used to travel by the local train , I had a friend to accompany me on my first day. On the morning of August 23, when i tried to enter into the college, I was stopped by the watchman demanding a proof of I being in this college(I wondered, on the first day itself the college tried to disown me..but was wrong though..:). After some fuss, I was let in. In a huge campus of my college, I was a lone wanderer like many others who were there with me. Two buildings and not knowing which building housed my class. Being in a group always helps and finally after some brute force method of search, we found our class. The professor who was teaching physics was a thin person, bald to some extent. The whole class was silent when I entered, engrossed in what the professor was teaching.
   Following the lecture, we had a break of 45 minutes. On the first day itself, I was a bit tensed as to how I would interact with my seniors. However, everything went off well with the seniors. After two lectures passed in a similar sense, we had a practical session. Here we were asked to work in a group of two. I worked with a guy there who had a chilled attitude towards life. I was pretty much indifferent towards bunking lectures owing to my school days and sincere attitude. We often bunked and to beat my tiredness I would come home and sleep again(though now bunking is associated with activities other than sleeping for me).I often remember bunking on Wednesday's after my practical session would get over. Unfortunately, this guy moved on to some other college. I still remember the times I spent with him, we enjoyed a lot.
   He left, but I met people who have added value to my life later on and today I am glad to have such people in my life. To sum up, i sensed a feel-good factor on the first day of my college and I felt I will do something useful in these years, develop myself, work on interesting things and I am happy today that I have done it all.
  I just thought of expressing about my first day today because I got nostalgic thinking about how that day was. Currently, hardly a month remains for this journey to end. My experiences have been mixed and I am sensing emotional beats increasing in my heart as the end nears. Today, I feel.....the onset of the end has begun.....

"“The end is in the beginning and lies far ahead."
-Ralph Ellison

Get coloured!

   Wishing all my readers a very happy holi. May this festival bring happiness and contentment in each one's life. I relate colours to various aspects right from emotions, life,love,travel,people and locations on this earth to cite a few.
   Well, talking about emotions, as i have already stated in my article Emotions, they are responsible for making one's life colourful.Take red as anger,blue as sadness,green as acceptance,light red for joy I would apply all of them on my readers so that you experience a just balance of everything. Guyss..experience the highs and lows of life all are equally important. When i apply red colour on you, let all your anger w.r.t me be expressed(i just hope it doesn't turn out to be too red). Let blue represent all the sadness of yours caused by me, when i apply blue, let all those memories fade away. Light red of course, represent the joyous movements I and you may have spent.(I wouldnt mind if this becomes a bit more dark..:p).
   Talking about love, to all those immersed in here in this domain. Let Red be not a colour of anger for you all but a colour of Love. Though i would suggest one thing, even if the meaning of "Red" switches from Love to anger do not mind and revert back to the original meaning i.e love. Enjoy this wonderful feeling this holi.
   Travelling, to all those who love travelling and listening to songs. With each song played we remember all those moments which the songs points to. The blues of life, the good moments, the sad moments and all other wonderful moments of life.Travelling is never a waste of time but a time to analyse self, relax and listen to music and experience each colour and its meaning.
   Talking about people, we have numerous people in our lives. The ones who make us angry, the one who make us happy, the ones who make us confused, the ones who value us, the ones who irritate us. Each of these people represent a colour and all of them make up our life. Life will never be complete without all of them.
  Locations, to all those who can relate to various locations where we often spend good times, bad times and times where we get bored. Let all of them always be there in our lives.
   As it is said, we must enjoy these colours in our lives but at the same time also be careful from resulting imbalances and harms. 

I would appeal all my readers to play a safe holi.
HAPPY HOLI TO ALL ONCE AGAIN.

Always for you, Mom and Dad!

             Do you all remember the days when you couldn't walk by yourself but trying to take your first few steps? Do you all remember the days when your fear for a particular thing would vanish with the motivational talks given by your father/mother?Do you all remember the days when you passed your first board exams??Do you remember the day when you got your first job?
      All the situations I mentioned above is what all of us remember. We remember how we reacted in those situations. What we sometimes forget or rather fail to acknowledge is the role of parents and their reactions in our achievements. More than us, they are happy for our achievements but their happiness often fades away in our lives. We are always busy informing our best buddies, loved ones(if any..:p). Getting a job was the most recent thing which happened and I still observe the happiness my parents portray for that. Going a bit back in the timeline of life, I remember the anxiety I had a day before my CET (entrance for engineering).  They were the ones who fueled my spirits when I needed it the most. Today, with God's grace and with my parents blessings, I am on the verge of completing engineering from a renowned institution.These are just a few events I mentioned and there are myriad number of them.
      I have in the past spoken about relationships and expectations. Would you all like to know the relationship which is the purest? A parent-child relationship, according to me is made from a womb where we are not yet "blessed" with any brain to get manipulative. We are at our modest best. Leave a small kid in the crowd and all you can hear him/her screeching for is his/her parents and not anyone else; irrespective of whether he/she gets manipulative later on in his.her life. Their rebukes have a huge component of love hidden in them. The love which reminds us of the righteous path we must take in life. As I mentioned in my previous article, the world is laden with illusions(Maya) which we are not able to make out sometimes. They guide us through to tackle all such illusions.
   Today, I see people telling me they need someone to love them, care for them. For that very moment I often self-talk "Oh, come on what is wrong with you, you have your parents, have you forgotten them??".  I again take this opportunity to emphasize on the point that people/objects which are the closest to us often loose value with time. This is a matter of grief. There shouldn't be any resistance or lack of excitement for new things or entry of new people in life but it is of much harm when that leads to deterioration in the value or ignorance of the old and near and dear ones. Keeping this aspect in mind, the worst condition that is seen today is leaving one's parents in an old age home against their wishes and thinking of them as a "load" in one's life. For one moment if we imagine the care, the relentless efforts they put to make us stand on our own feet, we will keep such thoughts out of our mind keep aside doing such things!
    For once one can imagine a loved one/friend leave but the ones who are always with you for whatever you are and will be are your parents.I have seen relationships where either of the person is ready to break the friendship for some or the other habit of other person. In case of our parents, they never talk of leaving on such issues which is why they love us unconditionally. When we fight with them, we do not need to have the fear of loosing them. We can be "ourselves" with our parents for rest all relationships we need to really be careful before things go out of our hands and the relationship ends.
   Today, I want to thank them for all that they have done for me, the sacrifices they have made for me. My heart is overwhelmed with emotions as I write this article. From sacrificing an ice-cream in our childhood to sacrificing their own fancy needs to satisfy our needs which are sometimes unworthy but valued more than their needs, they are the epitome of sacrificial behaviour. I am running out of words as I wish more and more to describe about them. The best gift of life is having your parents stand by you during all your problems as well as successes.My heart today reaches out to those who are deprived of parental love.Maybe I wont be able to imagine their plight.
   Dad and Mom, you  have been an inspiration to me and will be always valued and respected come what may.....always for you..mom and dad.
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!

MayaJaal:an illusional beauty

      To start with, by maya I mean illusion as mentioned in the title and Jaal(in hindi) means trap .
      It is said that the world is an illusion. We get lured by some things which actually are just made to appear perfect, crafted beautifully but inside lies the reality.Even in great mythologies, maya was used to lure and create a delusion to achieve goals but for good purposes. In this age too I believe it is very much there, the only thing is we are so busy with work, that we hardly fail to notice this delusion. Sometimes, we get trapped in it and we feel helpless not able to come out of it. I believe if we realise that this is a trap, coming out of it is not as difficult.
      I term it beautiful because it is often attractive and enticing. From a distance, we may feel that getting it is the best thing to happen and can lead to satisfaction and complacency. Let us take a very good common life example. We must have seen gadgets which are packed very nicely and some which are poorly packed. Which one do you find more attractive??it obviously has to be the nicely packed one. I would call this a maya..its because we are lured looking at the packing of the gadgets and not the actual gadget inside. Irrespective of the quality of the gadget inside, we first examine the one which has been packaged nicely.It may happen that its just the packing of the gadget which is done beautifully and the actual gadget is not of a good quality.
      Maya is everything which deviates us from our goal. It can take any form, just any. It is Maya which makes a person lured to another just because of his/her beauty. Beauty is just an outer appearance and we all know how deceptive appearances can be many times. When relationships are solely based on this, terrible consequences follow.Its such a 'powerful' weak string that it binds some with an illusion lifelong that things can ever workout. There is no base but just a feeling that will make you contended that things might just work out the way you want. The worst of all that could happen is that getting trapped in these things inspite of knowing that it is a trap.
   I would also term money as Maya. Sometimes we are in the tight grips of 'misery'(actually speaking) that no amount of money earned ever satisfies us and our needs. The more we seem to get, the lesser we seem to have. Money now leads to buying all sorts of wordly objects of secondary interest. These objects never keep us happy throughout but for a short period of time. It is hence rightly said "Money can buy you everything except happiness". Ever wondered why???its only because fundamentally our happiness doesn't lie in such things. We are born here for a greater cause to serve others, to help others and basically to make use of the "rationality" bestowed to us by the Almighty.
    So, as we discussed Maya defies all logic. It forms an illusionary passage whereby we unknowingly surpass all our basic instincts.So, the next  we can ponder upon is why has Maya been created...??any answers..??I personally think it is to test your depth of your thoughts and control over senses. On getting lured, we forget the purpose of our life and sometimes the basic principles of humanity as discussed earlier. According to me, Maya makes one experience Heaven in Hell but this doesnt last forever. One fine day when we come out of its clutches, we realise the oblivion to reality which we have been missing for so much time.
     To sum up, never get trapped by outer looks. Things beautifully crafted from outside may contain the worst inner environment. I would appeal all my blog readers to free themselves from the exasperating clutches of Maya. Its claws are such that even after leaving it you may feel frustrated,angry but still craving for more. That is the time when you must control yourself and never give it another chance because the same thing will surely follow.
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!

Stop being Selfish to make this world a beautiful place

    Selfishness, I would say is the greatest cause of suffering today. Why are we selfish??its because we think we can get happy by doing a particular thing or acquiring a thing for our own purposes.  I dont think the end result is as satisfying as it should have been. I dont think we can ever be happy by getting things done just because of selfish purposes.Its one thing i hate the most since its forced upon..being selfish often urges a person to go out of the way, sometimes do the wrong thing which he/she does not do naturally.
   Selfishness, I would say is a curse. I say so because people dont know where to draw their lines and often start seeing their own benefits in circumstances. When a person is selfish, his/her thinking is restricted, he/she may think all the negative stuff sometimes to the extent of bringing the other person down, emotionally or professionally. Jealousy leads to selfishness, i ask you all one question..why to get jealous..it is only because the person doesn't know his/her own worth,capability and feels the other person becomes superior for him/her. This leads to selfishness and we start to think of not only how to get our things done but also ways,means to get the other one down. Even if we achieve in doing so, we our destroying so many things, hurting others,emotions, aspirations..do you think anybody gains anything achieving this way?? the heart is a clean organ and when it is polluted, some voice will often tell you somethings wrong thus never giving you the ultimate satisfaction. We have nowadays learnt to turn a deaf ear to all this and get immersed in that superficial temporary happiness obtained by being selfish. I also consider selfishness in small things such as throwing the garbage on road. What is selfishness here???ever wondered??it lies in this line of thought-"I want to get rid of this garbage irrespective of the surroundings getting dirty"..very poor mind i would say..its excusable sometimes that we do it out of laziness but I personally think we must be critical of such activities and detest as well as not do such things. Having cited this example I prod people to think that being selfish is not just in getting larger things but also in such small activities..So before correcting ourselves for larger purposes, we must retrospect in smaller issues. These are the unrealized root of such thinking.
   Relationships is a bond which is made from the heart it is said, be it friendship also. Not anymore, I might have emphasized on this point many times before but I surely now feel that there might be a day, in fact there already is when relationships are need based. People break relations with some and use some
other person to get over him/her. There have been many cases of this sort??What is this??its just using people for one's own benefits??It shows weakness of ones own conscience, ones own will power. In this process unknowingly or sometimes with intention people are hurt while a person gets his/her job done to make others realise that they were just a puppet for that person to sail smooth and overcome the "high tides" of his/her own life. One fine day they will walk with ease and put you out in jeopardy.
   Happiness is such a "terrible sensation" sometimes because it makes a person forget what bad he did. A person who lives in the precincts of his his own selfish motives today will be happy for that feeling but God knows how many people might have been suppressed or hurt unintentionally for getting that state.This is where i say a clean heart comes into play. It will make you realise that this is not it, work for a greater cause, heal someone in need.
  I request all my readers to get out of this trap and illusion of getting happy by being selfish and having ulterior motives.Life is much larger than this, it is all about doing good to others, it is about basing relationships on understanding rather than keeping it need based. It is all about doing good to someone and always being indebted to the things they did unselfishly.I can just wish there may not come a time when men will love nothing but their own selves and get selfish to this extent even in loving someone. I hope to see a world of many mortals being unselfish
somewhere down the line...and make this world a beautiful place!
"Happiness doesn't come through selfishness but through selflessness. Everything you do comes back around"
-ANON
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!

Uncertainty

                   Wishing all my readers a happy and prosperous new year. May this year give you strength to overcome all obstacles which await to be faced. May the battle with problems be easy.
        Now lets get to the topic,uncertainty. We say, life is exciting....wondered why??DYNAMISM...how does this come now???UNCERTAINTY...everything of the future is just a prediction.. Everything is just a shot at the cloud of uncertainty. As such hit by mundaneness, we get bored to some extent doing certain things as a routine.With everything just being as certain, life would even get more sullen.
      Not knowing what might happen tomorrow, sometimes I just keep my fingers crossed to expect the best.When I am down many times, this uncertainty acts like a silver lining in the cloud. Uncertainty makes me think that getting a smooth ride is something not very common and even if I get it one day, its never the same for the succeeding days. We see to our surprise, so many people achieving results which were never expected, its all because of the shot at the cloud at uncertainty. This leads to the topic of luck..so what is luck..??its just something which can be called as our fate, something not in our hands. Luck can be extrapolated very much from uncertainty. When luck favours us, we achieve results. Why so??if we are certain that we are not capable of achieving that result, we still make it. I put it this way..."there is something uncertain about ourselves which maybe even we dont know or have not discovered". The discovery of this new thing leads to some change in our life.

   Talking about change, change is a huge topic.With eminent people having said great things about it and its  an established fact that change is imminent. Personally I believe that change and time are the only constant things in life. We keep on changing ourselves constantly. Change, in so many ways is related to uncertainty. We try to adopt to situations not knowing what they actually are and find ourselves changed, making modifications to adopt to the best of our capabilities.Let us take an example: You may have an interview tomorrow, and you dont know what sort of questions can be asked what you do is prepare certain 'frequently' asked questions and then think that you are at your best to take on this uncertainity of not knowing what maybe asked.
     Talking about academics, this has led to a huge branch of research. Artificial intelligence today, is all dealing with uncertainty. Probability(the reason i highlighted frequently in the preceeding para), which people across various branches study today is based on uncertainty. Based on the current conditions and certain predictions, the chances are extrapolated. To put it simply, if there were no uncertainty the probability of every event would have been 1 because we knew what would happen.I also believe that if Time travel is made possible we can quench our thirst for all the uncertainty that exists???But the question arises is it possible??Can we defy the principles of time, as possible in so many games, travel ahead, see what lies ahead and be pretty certain about what might happen?
  Seeing any glass half filled, I vehemently believe its possible and the 'un' from the uncertainty will be removed. When this happens, so many lives would be saved. When a person is in initial stages of a fatal disease, we could just travel ahead to check if this disease really became fatal with time in case the detection presently just defied it. We still remain in the cloud of uncertainty in presence of extraterrestrial beings. With time this fact can be concretised and today we can be sure of their existence which we may discover tomorrow.These were just a few examples to cite.
   To sum up, uncertainty is all about foreseeing the future, merging tomorrow and today. Personally..uncertainty has made my life interesting today and i feel it is necessary to keep the ecstasy of excitement on in our lives.
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU.

Expectations.

     "I never expected this from you", "I expect a good show from you","You shattered my expectations" are some of the quotes which I heard in the numerous conversations I have been a part of. What is common in them? EXPECTATIONS. We expect a lot from the people around who are known to us. What do you think??Is it healthy to expect??Does anybody know why do we even expect things?Its a known fact that it is the root cause of disappointment...do u agree to these facts?

      What i think is that whenever we see a person the first time, a variety of factors like his/her persona, his/her way of communication etc creates an impression on our mind. We thereby set a threshold for a persons expected behaviour seeing how he behaves. In our subconscious mind, we create an image of a person. Whenever we come across the person behaving normally, there are no issues but when there is an aberrence from the image created in our subconscious we sense something strange. Thats only because he/she did not keep upto his/her expectations of a behaviour which he/she adheres to generally.  We do so many things without our own knowledge, dont we?? we have started to expect from someone without wanting to do it consciously.
         There are expectations from one's own family members. Whenever a person is blessed with intelligence, he or she is expected to do something of a "high acumen". The interest of the person is overshadowed by the expectations which is created around him/her. In this case the person succumbs to others demands rather than his/her own interests. I have seen many intelligent people taking up engineering only because of family expectations and having  no interest of their own. Surely engineering is a good course but some other course maybe not as "relevant" as engineering, has lost them. Such expectations are unreasonable and unfathomable. This also happens because apparently we start revering a course and tag it to be superior while some other profession/course is tagged to be inferior by our subconscious mind. These are all false reasons to some predicaments which had once risen in our mind. I really sympathize with the people who have succumbed to this expectation and have decided to change the course of their life. I vehemently believe that we are born to pursue our passions and we must not believe in such "mirage"(false reverence and expectations) created by some people who later on wont even be a part of our lives sometimes.The perfect illustration of my point is provided by the movie "3 idiots( character Farhan)".
   Expectations, apart from in normal friendships, have magnified, one can say, in romantic relationships. So these people keep crying, they will joke by declaring "Really its better to be single". You ask them why??they say its more of problem and there are many disappointments. When you take the pain to investigate, you find either of them had great expectations. I just am unable to fathom one thing: having seen folks from a generation earlier who have been so simple, down to earth, who are bound by marriage, going along well with each other inspite of the normal whims, why relationship these days are broken and are in a state of deadlock?

     Though I dont deny that certain expectations do exist and they are responsible for healthy relationships, overblown ones are catastrophic. Expectations are related to relationships and relationships are related to emotions. Having written an article on emotions, its really surprising to note the intertwined nature of all three; an imbalance in any one of them has an adverse effect on another. Let  not the boat of life sailing in this vast ocean of uncertainity be capsized by the imbalance in any of the three factors stated earlier: expectations->relationships->emotions which again leads to expectations. (All the computer programmers out there, a circular linked list is what one observes amongst the three factors..:p).Let us also bridge the gap between expectations and reality. Lastly I would like to end this blog on a famous quote:
"Persons appear to us according to the light we throw upon them from our own minds."
 -Laura Ingalls Wilder

We will miss you..Sachin!

     India's batting order will never be the same with a void number 4 (in test cricket specifically). The field will dearly miss his charismatic presence. He is the one who made the stadium come at a standstill and the people at home hold their breath when he reached his anxious 99. People around the world used to freeze whilst doing their work only to see one more run getting scored and to realise themselves the difference between 99 and 100 when this man played the game. He is the reason why innumerable offices here today have televisions installed and especially working when India plays cricket.He is also the reason why afflicted people who once were reluctant to get up and walk used to dance magically when he reached a 100. I am talking about none other than the GOD of cricket  MR.SACHIN TENDULKAR.

    Innumerable records made and equal number of records broken. It was never imagined that records will be broken with grace, the thresholds of cricket and records have transformed to once "unrealistic levels" to realism now. This legendary man has a plethora of records to his credit with one of the best being the heralder of double century in ODI. Following his record then, there were others who made their presence felt in this league of ODI double centuries. Such has become the game that Sachin makes the rules and others follow them when it comes to making and breaking records. One of the other flabbergasting and mind boggling records set by him include the 100 100's(centuries) hit by him in his cricketing career with 200 test matches played and myriad ODI's. I could just make a table highlighting his records and that would go on for pages.
    He has achieved what so many of us here wish to achieve but fail to do so, by setting an example of himself to the young aspiring minds here. Whenever i saw him getting out, half of the expectations of a victory  for the team would get shattered. He was the "team" for me. One of my friends named Aadesh for whom cricket became a passion and still is, who represented our college team finds his gentle nature and aggression whilst batting impressive. He is developing his skills keeping Sachin as the reference when it comes to technicalities while playing shots like cover drive, Straight drive,Paddle sweep etc. Like Aadesh, there are innumerable of us who try to imitate his actions, batting like him and I too am proud to be one of them.

   I fondly remember those anxious moments when he was in his 90's.I also cherish all those memorable anxious sips of coffee I have had just expecting a four or six for him to reach a perfect 100 and then used to get slightly disappointed since he used to keep up the heebie-jeebies of that situation by just scoring a run. He failed many times by getting out in his 90's but what is worth noting is how he rose not just for these 100's but even in his life. After so many minor injuries and a critical injury in his life, he never left pursuing his passion and he rose like a Phoenix from ashes and returned to be there on the 22 yard pitch which will henceforth miss him. How can one forget the time when his father passed away in 1999 and his early magical return to the field which was a grandiose boost to our team that time. He was pitted against so many opponents in the game but his reply was one with that of grace. He let his bat do the speaking.
  His farewell speech clearly shows how grounded he is as a person. He is a silent achiever I would say, having lived in his own world and with his own people whom he dearly values, he has achieved laurels and made our nation proud. I would coin him a 'common man with uncommon achievements' that he believes in simplicity and hardwork alone. This game will really miss him to the extent he misses this game or maybe even more than that. Today, with great pride, he leaves the game, leaves the team responsibly with a set dynamic and young budding players who have had the golden opportunity to spend their time with this LEGEND and let his charisma and skill inspire them in their quest to make the team successful.
   His physical presence in the field will be missed but he will be eternally present in the minds of tons and tons of people here for whom he has been an inspiration and a reason for cricket'ing'.

WE WILL MISS YOUR PRESENCE..THE GOD OF CRICKET,THE MASTER BLASTER, SACHIN TENDULKAR.

Mr/Ms Perfect??

       "So what do you know?? I know this part of this chapter, I know some part of this chapter and some of some other chapter". Are you the one who answers this way when asked what do you know?? Then I presume you have the partial knowledge of everything prima facie but are a master of none.It's just like i know everything but not everything of something. Having a partial knowledge I presume is something not recommended at all.
       There are some interesting things I encountered during my academic tenure. When i sit for vivas, I am asked the same question and when I say these chapters are currently in my domain of knowledge, the instant reply is.."only this much?"...well...all i tell them is that its better to know fewer things better than nothing at all. The problem doesn't end here, the next "best" thing to happen is the examiners stare  you with a grilling look to give us a jist of how moments could get worse for us having named the those chapters. Justifying the look mentioned, the examiners will ask you simple questions but what you recollect are some "stars" you drew in your book. Nevertheless the look on our face is the one of deep thought, the one which portrays going through the pages in our "picturesque" mind. We loose out maily because of the glaring look of the examiner even if the questions are easy. Finally we see the examiner with such sincerity which we may never ever have expressed to anyone in the entire semester. Our mind appeals only one thing indirectly "Please pass kardo yaar(please give us passing marks atleast)".Their answer is I cannot pass you.....
     

  Now the second case: I say I have skimmed(read but not very attentively) everything but not done anything perfectly. This is also a problem. When I have studied part A from a particular chapter, I am always asked questions from part B of that chapter. Then again after some grilling on the parts which I haven't studied they are back to square one i.e "What do you know?". Who will make them understand that all we knew were things from part A of a particular chapter. Again the look on our faces is the one of sincerity and the story goes on and on till the last year.
  So now, since one gets screwed both the ways, how to handle this??think...think..oh yes..speak something out..something or the other...make an attempt?? rather than blatantly telling them "i dont know?". Well, this seems a tad bit better but then this way too you are screwed.How?? the examiner will say "if you dont know anything admit it". Then again the same story begins..the look...picturesque memory..etc. We make an appealing expression portraying the desperation and frustration of everything and a humble request to them to pass.They have an answer directly.."I cannot pass you..."

    The pressure to be perfect will always be on us. The above stated scenarios are just an example on how the world expects us to be perfect. Not only this even if we are perfect, it must be on all fronts. Sometimes i feel like asking the examiners on "whether they expect us to be specialists or generalists"..what does the world want??...there are no answers to this question...even if the answers exist, they can just be an individual perspective and not a generalised and an applicable-to-all  answer. So folks, the world is highly dynamic and confusing, isn't it??


GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU

In pursuit of happiness

             Happiness, a topic much debated on and discussed on for the myriad definitions and perspectives it is having. The definitions can be a million but i would like to take this opportunity to discuss some. Before I start, may i ask what is happiness for you???is it buying a car???a new house???a future possibility of something good happening???or some past activity of yours???...well....let us find out..
           The definition of happiness differs from people to people. For some, happiness depends on the inner state of mind. Inner state of mind as in, by doing good to others, helping others and acting unselfish they find happiness. For them the outer materialistic things are just a part and parcel of life. In some aspects I feel they are right the only reason being materialistic things are temporary, as in they come grow old and are flushed out of life.  For instance the happiness of buying a computer is not very long lasting; after the initial excitement we often tend to get used to it and handle it as if it were a normal commodity. The above stated aspect is one thing I am unable to understand and that too inspite of knowing that a thing's importance will reduce, we are unable to 'reduce' the reduction of importance, isnt it strange?? The things we buy can be lost by us only to later realise they wont come back to us though we become attached to it. So in one way happiness doesn't totally apply to the materialistic things we buy.
        The same applies to relationships among people. When we make new friends, we have ample content to talk on and we are unable to keep a track of time especially when we find people with the same wavelength. As time passes though, these people are ingrained into our mind and there is nothing that special about them until and unless they leave us, we fight or we separate for various other reasons.So what is happiness here then??it lies in having such people throughout our lives...not caring about the distance which separates such people from us and always staying in touch. The happiness remains the same each time we talk to them; such people never grow old in our lives; they generate equal amount of alacrity each time we speak to them. People say time passes, but, I would say the joy of speaking to such people remains intact.
    Some of us wait for some or the other activity to be happy. For instance, when in school, one might think of going home and doing something more interesting than the indolence laden environment there. We pin our happiness to some activity of the future which cannot be vouched for its realization. We become happy imagining the rosy picture which lies in our "wonderlands". Same applies to our past; though it can be said to be a bit more reasonable. We think of the good things that have happened in the past and get charged up. Very well, but too much dependence on it and ignoring the present is what hits the most. What is happiness here then in this case????LIVE IN THE PRESENT. It is called PRESENT since each and every moment is a gift to our lives and we must cherish it and live it to our maximum rather then being dependent on other factors.
   

       So, all my blog friends, its high time, we redefined "happiness" in our lives to the present(gift) which we are having. The more i find myself writing about this topic, the lesser seems the content. I still state that happiness is a topic which cannot be defined by a single perspective at all.Well, friends for every other thing in life we have to pay a cost be it money,any sacrifice etc. but happiness is a thing which can be free of cost depending on what your thoughts are. All the points I stated above were nothing but a tinge of water amidst an ocean. Finally i would end this blog on a quote:

"True happiness is... to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future."

Lucius Annaeus Senec

GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!