Stop being Selfish to make this world a beautiful place

    Selfishness, I would say is the greatest cause of suffering today. Why are we selfish??its because we think we can get happy by doing a particular thing or acquiring a thing for our own purposes.  I dont think the end result is as satisfying as it should have been. I dont think we can ever be happy by getting things done just because of selfish purposes.Its one thing i hate the most since its forced upon..being selfish often urges a person to go out of the way, sometimes do the wrong thing which he/she does not do naturally.
   Selfishness, I would say is a curse. I say so because people dont know where to draw their lines and often start seeing their own benefits in circumstances. When a person is selfish, his/her thinking is restricted, he/she may think all the negative stuff sometimes to the extent of bringing the other person down, emotionally or professionally. Jealousy leads to selfishness, i ask you all one question..why to get jealous..it is only because the person doesn't know his/her own worth,capability and feels the other person becomes superior for him/her. This leads to selfishness and we start to think of not only how to get our things done but also ways,means to get the other one down. Even if we achieve in doing so, we our destroying so many things, hurting others,emotions, aspirations..do you think anybody gains anything achieving this way?? the heart is a clean organ and when it is polluted, some voice will often tell you somethings wrong thus never giving you the ultimate satisfaction. We have nowadays learnt to turn a deaf ear to all this and get immersed in that superficial temporary happiness obtained by being selfish. I also consider selfishness in small things such as throwing the garbage on road. What is selfishness here???ever wondered??it lies in this line of thought-"I want to get rid of this garbage irrespective of the surroundings getting dirty"..very poor mind i would say..its excusable sometimes that we do it out of laziness but I personally think we must be critical of such activities and detest as well as not do such things. Having cited this example I prod people to think that being selfish is not just in getting larger things but also in such small activities..So before correcting ourselves for larger purposes, we must retrospect in smaller issues. These are the unrealized root of such thinking.
   Relationships is a bond which is made from the heart it is said, be it friendship also. Not anymore, I might have emphasized on this point many times before but I surely now feel that there might be a day, in fact there already is when relationships are need based. People break relations with some and use some
other person to get over him/her. There have been many cases of this sort??What is this??its just using people for one's own benefits??It shows weakness of ones own conscience, ones own will power. In this process unknowingly or sometimes with intention people are hurt while a person gets his/her job done to make others realise that they were just a puppet for that person to sail smooth and overcome the "high tides" of his/her own life. One fine day they will walk with ease and put you out in jeopardy.
   Happiness is such a "terrible sensation" sometimes because it makes a person forget what bad he did. A person who lives in the precincts of his his own selfish motives today will be happy for that feeling but God knows how many people might have been suppressed or hurt unintentionally for getting that state.This is where i say a clean heart comes into play. It will make you realise that this is not it, work for a greater cause, heal someone in need.
  I request all my readers to get out of this trap and illusion of getting happy by being selfish and having ulterior motives.Life is much larger than this, it is all about doing good to others, it is about basing relationships on understanding rather than keeping it need based. It is all about doing good to someone and always being indebted to the things they did unselfishly.I can just wish there may not come a time when men will love nothing but their own selves and get selfish to this extent even in loving someone. I hope to see a world of many mortals being unselfish
somewhere down the line...and make this world a beautiful place!
"Happiness doesn't come through selfishness but through selflessness. Everything you do comes back around"
-ANON
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!

Uncertainty

                   Wishing all my readers a happy and prosperous new year. May this year give you strength to overcome all obstacles which await to be faced. May the battle with problems be easy.
        Now lets get to the topic,uncertainty. We say, life is exciting....wondered why??DYNAMISM...how does this come now???UNCERTAINTY...everything of the future is just a prediction.. Everything is just a shot at the cloud of uncertainty. As such hit by mundaneness, we get bored to some extent doing certain things as a routine.With everything just being as certain, life would even get more sullen.
      Not knowing what might happen tomorrow, sometimes I just keep my fingers crossed to expect the best.When I am down many times, this uncertainty acts like a silver lining in the cloud. Uncertainty makes me think that getting a smooth ride is something not very common and even if I get it one day, its never the same for the succeeding days. We see to our surprise, so many people achieving results which were never expected, its all because of the shot at the cloud at uncertainty. This leads to the topic of luck..so what is luck..??its just something which can be called as our fate, something not in our hands. Luck can be extrapolated very much from uncertainty. When luck favours us, we achieve results. Why so??if we are certain that we are not capable of achieving that result, we still make it. I put it this way..."there is something uncertain about ourselves which maybe even we dont know or have not discovered". The discovery of this new thing leads to some change in our life.

   Talking about change, change is a huge topic.With eminent people having said great things about it and its  an established fact that change is imminent. Personally I believe that change and time are the only constant things in life. We keep on changing ourselves constantly. Change, in so many ways is related to uncertainty. We try to adopt to situations not knowing what they actually are and find ourselves changed, making modifications to adopt to the best of our capabilities.Let us take an example: You may have an interview tomorrow, and you dont know what sort of questions can be asked what you do is prepare certain 'frequently' asked questions and then think that you are at your best to take on this uncertainity of not knowing what maybe asked.
     Talking about academics, this has led to a huge branch of research. Artificial intelligence today, is all dealing with uncertainty. Probability(the reason i highlighted frequently in the preceeding para), which people across various branches study today is based on uncertainty. Based on the current conditions and certain predictions, the chances are extrapolated. To put it simply, if there were no uncertainty the probability of every event would have been 1 because we knew what would happen.I also believe that if Time travel is made possible we can quench our thirst for all the uncertainty that exists???But the question arises is it possible??Can we defy the principles of time, as possible in so many games, travel ahead, see what lies ahead and be pretty certain about what might happen?
  Seeing any glass half filled, I vehemently believe its possible and the 'un' from the uncertainty will be removed. When this happens, so many lives would be saved. When a person is in initial stages of a fatal disease, we could just travel ahead to check if this disease really became fatal with time in case the detection presently just defied it. We still remain in the cloud of uncertainty in presence of extraterrestrial beings. With time this fact can be concretised and today we can be sure of their existence which we may discover tomorrow.These were just a few examples to cite.
   To sum up, uncertainty is all about foreseeing the future, merging tomorrow and today. Personally..uncertainty has made my life interesting today and i feel it is necessary to keep the ecstasy of excitement on in our lives.
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU.

Expectations.

     "I never expected this from you", "I expect a good show from you","You shattered my expectations" are some of the quotes which I heard in the numerous conversations I have been a part of. What is common in them? EXPECTATIONS. We expect a lot from the people around who are known to us. What do you think??Is it healthy to expect??Does anybody know why do we even expect things?Its a known fact that it is the root cause of disappointment...do u agree to these facts?

      What i think is that whenever we see a person the first time, a variety of factors like his/her persona, his/her way of communication etc creates an impression on our mind. We thereby set a threshold for a persons expected behaviour seeing how he behaves. In our subconscious mind, we create an image of a person. Whenever we come across the person behaving normally, there are no issues but when there is an aberrence from the image created in our subconscious we sense something strange. Thats only because he/she did not keep upto his/her expectations of a behaviour which he/she adheres to generally.  We do so many things without our own knowledge, dont we?? we have started to expect from someone without wanting to do it consciously.
         There are expectations from one's own family members. Whenever a person is blessed with intelligence, he or she is expected to do something of a "high acumen". The interest of the person is overshadowed by the expectations which is created around him/her. In this case the person succumbs to others demands rather than his/her own interests. I have seen many intelligent people taking up engineering only because of family expectations and having  no interest of their own. Surely engineering is a good course but some other course maybe not as "relevant" as engineering, has lost them. Such expectations are unreasonable and unfathomable. This also happens because apparently we start revering a course and tag it to be superior while some other profession/course is tagged to be inferior by our subconscious mind. These are all false reasons to some predicaments which had once risen in our mind. I really sympathize with the people who have succumbed to this expectation and have decided to change the course of their life. I vehemently believe that we are born to pursue our passions and we must not believe in such "mirage"(false reverence and expectations) created by some people who later on wont even be a part of our lives sometimes.The perfect illustration of my point is provided by the movie "3 idiots( character Farhan)".
   Expectations, apart from in normal friendships, have magnified, one can say, in romantic relationships. So these people keep crying, they will joke by declaring "Really its better to be single". You ask them why??they say its more of problem and there are many disappointments. When you take the pain to investigate, you find either of them had great expectations. I just am unable to fathom one thing: having seen folks from a generation earlier who have been so simple, down to earth, who are bound by marriage, going along well with each other inspite of the normal whims, why relationship these days are broken and are in a state of deadlock?

     Though I dont deny that certain expectations do exist and they are responsible for healthy relationships, overblown ones are catastrophic. Expectations are related to relationships and relationships are related to emotions. Having written an article on emotions, its really surprising to note the intertwined nature of all three; an imbalance in any one of them has an adverse effect on another. Let  not the boat of life sailing in this vast ocean of uncertainity be capsized by the imbalance in any of the three factors stated earlier: expectations->relationships->emotions which again leads to expectations. (All the computer programmers out there, a circular linked list is what one observes amongst the three factors..:p).Let us also bridge the gap between expectations and reality. Lastly I would like to end this blog on a famous quote:
"Persons appear to us according to the light we throw upon them from our own minds."
 -Laura Ingalls Wilder

We will miss you..Sachin!

     India's batting order will never be the same with a void number 4 (in test cricket specifically). The field will dearly miss his charismatic presence. He is the one who made the stadium come at a standstill and the people at home hold their breath when he reached his anxious 99. People around the world used to freeze whilst doing their work only to see one more run getting scored and to realise themselves the difference between 99 and 100 when this man played the game. He is the reason why innumerable offices here today have televisions installed and especially working when India plays cricket.He is also the reason why afflicted people who once were reluctant to get up and walk used to dance magically when he reached a 100. I am talking about none other than the GOD of cricket  MR.SACHIN TENDULKAR.

    Innumerable records made and equal number of records broken. It was never imagined that records will be broken with grace, the thresholds of cricket and records have transformed to once "unrealistic levels" to realism now. This legendary man has a plethora of records to his credit with one of the best being the heralder of double century in ODI. Following his record then, there were others who made their presence felt in this league of ODI double centuries. Such has become the game that Sachin makes the rules and others follow them when it comes to making and breaking records. One of the other flabbergasting and mind boggling records set by him include the 100 100's(centuries) hit by him in his cricketing career with 200 test matches played and myriad ODI's. I could just make a table highlighting his records and that would go on for pages.
    He has achieved what so many of us here wish to achieve but fail to do so, by setting an example of himself to the young aspiring minds here. Whenever i saw him getting out, half of the expectations of a victory  for the team would get shattered. He was the "team" for me. One of my friends named Aadesh for whom cricket became a passion and still is, who represented our college team finds his gentle nature and aggression whilst batting impressive. He is developing his skills keeping Sachin as the reference when it comes to technicalities while playing shots like cover drive, Straight drive,Paddle sweep etc. Like Aadesh, there are innumerable of us who try to imitate his actions, batting like him and I too am proud to be one of them.

   I fondly remember those anxious moments when he was in his 90's.I also cherish all those memorable anxious sips of coffee I have had just expecting a four or six for him to reach a perfect 100 and then used to get slightly disappointed since he used to keep up the heebie-jeebies of that situation by just scoring a run. He failed many times by getting out in his 90's but what is worth noting is how he rose not just for these 100's but even in his life. After so many minor injuries and a critical injury in his life, he never left pursuing his passion and he rose like a Phoenix from ashes and returned to be there on the 22 yard pitch which will henceforth miss him. How can one forget the time when his father passed away in 1999 and his early magical return to the field which was a grandiose boost to our team that time. He was pitted against so many opponents in the game but his reply was one with that of grace. He let his bat do the speaking.
  His farewell speech clearly shows how grounded he is as a person. He is a silent achiever I would say, having lived in his own world and with his own people whom he dearly values, he has achieved laurels and made our nation proud. I would coin him a 'common man with uncommon achievements' that he believes in simplicity and hardwork alone. This game will really miss him to the extent he misses this game or maybe even more than that. Today, with great pride, he leaves the game, leaves the team responsibly with a set dynamic and young budding players who have had the golden opportunity to spend their time with this LEGEND and let his charisma and skill inspire them in their quest to make the team successful.
   His physical presence in the field will be missed but he will be eternally present in the minds of tons and tons of people here for whom he has been an inspiration and a reason for cricket'ing'.

WE WILL MISS YOUR PRESENCE..THE GOD OF CRICKET,THE MASTER BLASTER, SACHIN TENDULKAR.

Mr/Ms Perfect??

       "So what do you know?? I know this part of this chapter, I know some part of this chapter and some of some other chapter". Are you the one who answers this way when asked what do you know?? Then I presume you have the partial knowledge of everything prima facie but are a master of none.It's just like i know everything but not everything of something. Having a partial knowledge I presume is something not recommended at all.
       There are some interesting things I encountered during my academic tenure. When i sit for vivas, I am asked the same question and when I say these chapters are currently in my domain of knowledge, the instant reply is.."only this much?"...well...all i tell them is that its better to know fewer things better than nothing at all. The problem doesn't end here, the next "best" thing to happen is the examiners stare  you with a grilling look to give us a jist of how moments could get worse for us having named the those chapters. Justifying the look mentioned, the examiners will ask you simple questions but what you recollect are some "stars" you drew in your book. Nevertheless the look on our face is the one of deep thought, the one which portrays going through the pages in our "picturesque" mind. We loose out maily because of the glaring look of the examiner even if the questions are easy. Finally we see the examiner with such sincerity which we may never ever have expressed to anyone in the entire semester. Our mind appeals only one thing indirectly "Please pass kardo yaar(please give us passing marks atleast)".Their answer is I cannot pass you.....
     

  Now the second case: I say I have skimmed(read but not very attentively) everything but not done anything perfectly. This is also a problem. When I have studied part A from a particular chapter, I am always asked questions from part B of that chapter. Then again after some grilling on the parts which I haven't studied they are back to square one i.e "What do you know?". Who will make them understand that all we knew were things from part A of a particular chapter. Again the look on our faces is the one of sincerity and the story goes on and on till the last year.
  So now, since one gets screwed both the ways, how to handle this??think...think..oh yes..speak something out..something or the other...make an attempt?? rather than blatantly telling them "i dont know?". Well, this seems a tad bit better but then this way too you are screwed.How?? the examiner will say "if you dont know anything admit it". Then again the same story begins..the look...picturesque memory..etc. We make an appealing expression portraying the desperation and frustration of everything and a humble request to them to pass.They have an answer directly.."I cannot pass you..."

    The pressure to be perfect will always be on us. The above stated scenarios are just an example on how the world expects us to be perfect. Not only this even if we are perfect, it must be on all fronts. Sometimes i feel like asking the examiners on "whether they expect us to be specialists or generalists"..what does the world want??...there are no answers to this question...even if the answers exist, they can just be an individual perspective and not a generalised and an applicable-to-all  answer. So folks, the world is highly dynamic and confusing, isn't it??


GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU

In pursuit of happiness

             Happiness, a topic much debated on and discussed on for the myriad definitions and perspectives it is having. The definitions can be a million but i would like to take this opportunity to discuss some. Before I start, may i ask what is happiness for you???is it buying a car???a new house???a future possibility of something good happening???or some past activity of yours???...well....let us find out..
           The definition of happiness differs from people to people. For some, happiness depends on the inner state of mind. Inner state of mind as in, by doing good to others, helping others and acting unselfish they find happiness. For them the outer materialistic things are just a part and parcel of life. In some aspects I feel they are right the only reason being materialistic things are temporary, as in they come grow old and are flushed out of life.  For instance the happiness of buying a computer is not very long lasting; after the initial excitement we often tend to get used to it and handle it as if it were a normal commodity. The above stated aspect is one thing I am unable to understand and that too inspite of knowing that a thing's importance will reduce, we are unable to 'reduce' the reduction of importance, isnt it strange?? The things we buy can be lost by us only to later realise they wont come back to us though we become attached to it. So in one way happiness doesn't totally apply to the materialistic things we buy.
        The same applies to relationships among people. When we make new friends, we have ample content to talk on and we are unable to keep a track of time especially when we find people with the same wavelength. As time passes though, these people are ingrained into our mind and there is nothing that special about them until and unless they leave us, we fight or we separate for various other reasons.So what is happiness here then??it lies in having such people throughout our lives...not caring about the distance which separates such people from us and always staying in touch. The happiness remains the same each time we talk to them; such people never grow old in our lives; they generate equal amount of alacrity each time we speak to them. People say time passes, but, I would say the joy of speaking to such people remains intact.
    Some of us wait for some or the other activity to be happy. For instance, when in school, one might think of going home and doing something more interesting than the indolence laden environment there. We pin our happiness to some activity of the future which cannot be vouched for its realization. We become happy imagining the rosy picture which lies in our "wonderlands". Same applies to our past; though it can be said to be a bit more reasonable. We think of the good things that have happened in the past and get charged up. Very well, but too much dependence on it and ignoring the present is what hits the most. What is happiness here then in this case????LIVE IN THE PRESENT. It is called PRESENT since each and every moment is a gift to our lives and we must cherish it and live it to our maximum rather then being dependent on other factors.
   

       So, all my blog friends, its high time, we redefined "happiness" in our lives to the present(gift) which we are having. The more i find myself writing about this topic, the lesser seems the content. I still state that happiness is a topic which cannot be defined by a single perspective at all.Well, friends for every other thing in life we have to pay a cost be it money,any sacrifice etc. but happiness is a thing which can be free of cost depending on what your thoughts are. All the points I stated above were nothing but a tinge of water amidst an ocean. Finally i would end this blog on a quote:

"True happiness is... to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future."

Lucius Annaeus Senec

GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!

     

Digitionships

   Well, digitionships??seems weird??wait...so you message your friend more than you talk with him/her in person ??then you might be having a good digitionship i.e Digital relationship. Mobiles and computers have become the paramount means of talking to people along with other traditional means. It can be said to be to our benefit but when used as a complementary means of staying in touch with people.
    People will "make-up" and "break-up" using  digital gadgets. Here's a sample conversation:
Boy: I am calling it off.
Girl: Oh..y?
Boy: I am absolutely unsure of what I want.
Girl: Okay..your wish.
(and the conversation ends)
The conversations have become so shallow and superficial and so have the relationships.When relationships are precarious, digital media is not a good means to communicate since results can be catastrophic. People are hardly able to see what the other person is actually feeling or willing to express. What one misses out is the reception of emotions. How could that happen when we are unable to see that person, his gestures, his willingness/unwillingness. People break relationships so easily as if it were some commodity to be purchased and thrown after using for some cost. I am not that experienced to comment as a fatherly figure but have got the understanding to value any relationship in my life. When I see such things happening, I am dismayed that people have also accepted to live with the shallowness; the intensity of "hurt" is risen but equally declining is the value of "hurt" in people.
   Marriages, the sacred bond, have surely not remained untouched by digital communication. One of the positives being the presence of numerous sites which help find the right partner. Though it's not hard to imagine that someday, due to scarcity of time, marriages will turn digital. People will use video calling facilities to see each other and use digital Garlands. Softwares for completion of marriages with all the rituals will come into existence.I imagine this software to contain something called as"marriage-box"(like toolbox) which contain various elements like garlands,the ring etc which are essential for marriages Digital marriage certificates will come into existence and there might be companies which will issue these certificates. If the marriages become digital, all I could hope and wish is that God also make our existence digital(birth and death) to complete the "digital" drive.

    All my blog readers out there, let only my views here remain digital but let the meaning of it cross the digital boundaries into the paradise of your thoughts to create a difference. I just hope that people realise the obsession they have with digital gadgets which later results in "digitionships". Lastly,a humble request to the readers to get out of the four walls, meet people and give "relationships"(in person interaction) more priority than "digitionships" because come what may "emotions" and "relationships" can never be "digitised".
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!

Emotions

       So, you are an emotional guy/girl. The cliched statement "You are very emotional" has become so banal. We know so many advantages of being sentimental and emotional but sometimes it is to our discredit. Emotions, I believe are basically scalars, something without a direction(as in they are unreasonable sometimes) and something unfathomable. Its not surprising that most of the times there is always a staunch disagreement between emotions and our mind. Our mind works on logic while emotions have no such thing as logic.
    Emotions have a strong force of cohesion i.e their fragments are strongly connected. They strike us badly when we bid adieu to near and dear ones. For instance when we leave our mom to go to work outside,  taking with us 20 years of cherishable moments spent with her, having lived under the shade of her motherly love.All of a sudden we realize that she will no longer be with us to be a part of our daily lives often seen combing our hair, leveling the excess powder we applied to our face, ironing our t-shirts,cleaning up the grandiose mess we leave behind after doing some job sometimes of a small magnitude though. Most importantly, the scolding we get for all the mess we created is dearly missed.We often rebuke to the scolding we get in the heat of the moment but sooner realise  what it actually meant and also that it was for our own good. The same applies to all our near and dear ones but with the respective activities they do. All I stated above seems very optimistic and have a feel-good factor to any third person. Its difficult though when one experiences it and has to accept the same. With time though, we gradually get used to it and then adapt to the new environment.

   Some people ask me the difference between a life with emotions and the one without emotions when I present them this view. All I tell them is that the difference is the same as the one between a black and white tv and a colour tv. Emotions are those sensations which make life worth living and make life colourful.The depressions are sensations which make us realise that something went wrong and ecstasies makes realise that something we did just was good enough to celebrate. I also staunchly believe that robots can never have the human intelligence until they "feel" things and possess dynamic emotions. Having said this, its quite evident that emotions make us complete humans.
     They are the reason why some broken relations are still existent somewhere, that some sort of memory always remains.This memory causes a lot of turmoil. Even in a simple relationship as friendship, a lot of emotions are involved and when that is broken though for the good, the pain is generated, the pain of separation, the pain of having been somehow subjected to unjustifiable behavior,deceit is what remains. Since emotions are logic deprived, although we know that a relationship cannot materialise, we often somehow imagine it to be working, an imagination which can hardly be a reality, an imagination which causes a person to even see through an opaque future. Such is the disgrace of emotions that a person looses control over himself, his/her mind only to see it being shattered by someone who was a pal of yours, now, has gone ahead in life for his/her own interests.Sometimes, when nostalgia strikes, day and night we think about the pleasant time spent with the person without even knowing whether the other person is thinking about you or not. I personally feel that the consequences of hurting someone is something which is accounted for and paid by the sinner in all cases.
  Having said all this, I would coin emotions as a powerful weakness. When we are unable to adapt to the situation and accept things which are not meant to be, they are a hinderance and a reason for unjustified things in life. It is such an unique and precious resource that we must not waste behind everyone and nurture it for it to be devoted to the deserving people. I am pretty fortunate to have such people in my life now as friends and there exists this "wireless" but powerful bond called "emotions"
  GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU

Criticism:the best tool for self-sympathy

                   "If the car isn't being driven properly, blame the car and not the driver."
    A very strange but true behavior I recently observed in humans is that criticism has become a tool for self condolence,self-sympathy. When people are unable to reach a stature in life, the best thing they do is criticize the stature(they were aiming for primarily by some or the other reason) and justify their own position(of failing) rather than identifying their shortcomings. By quoting the above phrase, I wish to convey exactly the same thing. What it actually means is that whenever the driver(the person) isn't able to drive correctly, he/she puts the onus on the situations/circumstances(the car) rather than on himself(the driver). It is but obvious that the car is only driven by the driver, maintained by the owner and hence it is the owner or the driver at fault and hardly the car(with a few exceptions).
    People often come with a imaginary high self-esteem for nothing which instills a fear in them to protect their apparent image. This attitude of people prevents them from learning new things and having an open-mind. The whole world is confined to protecting their own image by being obdurate to constructive criticism but freely criticising the people for the shoddy job(which actually may be worthy enough) they just accomplished. I recently experienced this in the campus recruitment drive which was organised by a noteworthy company in our college. With great amount of hardwork put in, I was selected by a giant IT firm entailing considerable respect in the market and having good prospects. I was without any doubt struck by the jubiliance that my hardwork paid off in a handsome way. The jubiliance was not only for getting a job but also for the kind of practical stuff which I was going to work on, having studied loads of theory all my life till date.
   The important aspect worth noting here is the attitude of some people who did not make it, the attitude of their "consoling" friends and some who just wanted to be a part of the "spectate and comment" type of attitude. These people are the ones who wish to spot the negativity in everything others do. People who could not make it were throwing barbs at the company and the people selected by the company. They were of the opinion that the company is "not that great". This indirectly implied that the people selected in the company were a sham or it happened just by luck. People who were not selected were consoled by so many who undermined the company and showed them some optimism by quoting "some better company might pick them up". All these statements come with a secondary meaning that the person selected got a company of "his worth" and that just because someone is not selected he is "more worthy". Very encouraging to the person who couldn't make it but equally discouraging for the person who got selected. Having said this, there are other subtle ways to encourage a person who wasn't selected. Maybe he might get any company which is equally worthy or a company where he deserves to be. There is no company more or less competent in the market; all that matters is one's own interest. Just because he/she doesnt like the job profile or did not make it to the company, its unfair call the company as bad/unworthy.
  I am totally against the practice of blaming other people/entity/organisation for one's own failure. Apart from the genuine people who were really left out, I found that many of them joined the wind of blaming the company and justifying themselves of being a "paragon" of knowledge. for some good people who were left out, opportunities are galore and the world is a huge place to leave out genuine talent unemployed. I staunchly believe that they will get their share but in a company in which they can adapt themselves culture-wise as well.

It's high time we retrospected on the aspects where we lacked rather than vehement criticism of the external conditions which are seldom under our control and which serves no purpose except that of "self symphatising" and apparent justification for one's failure. Finally I would like to end this blog on an inspiring quote:

"A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he blames some one else"
- John Burroughs

GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!
   

Living a life full of compensation!

   Note: Please take note of the sarcasm in this article in some places...Hope you enjoy the read.  
   I am dedicating this article to the habit of "compensating"
Did not get the deserving credit for a job you did??:compensate and let go..afterall you are being "paid" in some or the other way.  Your boss unjustifiably screeching on you for someone else's mistake: compensate and let go because he/she is after all senior to you(keeping aside what is right or wrong). Were not happy with something you just bought??'compensate'.Unjust things happening around you: compensate on your urge to raise your voice and let go to avoid trouble. The habit of compensation has become so banal these days, hasn't it??.
    I just loathe this habit.We have to compensate for so many things in life. Compensate on our values and virtues for the world which demand some unreasonable 'compensation' in these values to survive. I tell you the world is so money centered that irrespective of what you work or contribute, majority of the times money speaks more than anything else. Money is undoubtedly important but I would prioritize following certain ethical values rather than money. .Talking about money, hardwork and diligence are always rewarded handsomely in this world, come what may.Whenever I shared this opinion with others, the response which I got was that I was thinking in a very idealistic way All I would say is that people are just flowing with the crowd and are not having their say enough in this case when they say things are idealistic. Compensating throughout one's life for things may reward one with some "cash" or other fringe benefits but there is nothing which one will take away from this world having suppressed his/her emotions/values just for temporary benefits. I dont find this justified in any case. In this process, a person looses his/her say in matters which require to be opposed. I just sometimes wonder that if everyone worked skillfully and diligently such crooked methods would not have to be followed. When people have something to hide or have done something wrong, such methods come into existence.
   Next comes the habit of compensating on sharing one's emotions. Before opening up to anybody, we have to think twice about the person being trustworthy. The fear of getting one's emotions devalued by sharing it with the wrong people arises. Everybody, almost everybody except a handful of them in this world come without expectations in someone else's life. People are so self-centered that they may seem the best of any dog's species when it comes to portraying loyalty(falsely though) to people whom they have any work with.Once the work's done, slowly you find them distancing themselves from you. In such cases, when the you are in jeopardy/trouble,they might even fail to recognise you forget about anything else. Trusting such people is totally out of question. Frankly speaking such people exist in abundance today; I could just hope they were in rarity.What I wish to convey here is that we cannot be truthful and expressive with the people we wish to. We have to supress our emotions rather than sharing it with unwise people. "TRUST" is a rare and precious commodity whose value has been inflated in a grandiose way owing to the above mentioned factors.To sum up, there can hardly be any person in this world withm you could open up with or trust easily. You always have to compensate on the amount of talks you share with anyone. You can only trust yourself more than anyone else.
   Compensation also comes in the materialistic things we plan to buy. Whenever something doesnt fit into our budget all we do is compensate on the quality or some other factor. When we do compensate here, we console ourselves by the fact that people who are poorer are even devoid of the same object we just bought. What I feel is in order to progress in life, we must always look forward to the people who are at a higher stature than us as a baseline for comparison. In this process, we aim higher for buying the best quality things.I personally feel that our outlook must change in this issue.
    Well folks, its time to compensate on the amount of "compensation" we make in so many aspects. Maybe, someday, we might gain something we never expected.....a clean heart and an unfathomable satisfaction of following our instincts.
GOOD DAY TO ALL OF YOU!